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7 Keys to a Memorable Au Pair Experience Abroad

Advice and a Story About a Life-Changing Job in Florence, Italy

Article and photos by Janine Sobeck

Au pair on hill looking over the skyline of Florence, Italy.
Janine overlooking Florence, where she enjoyed her work and life as an au pair.

A straightforward question turned out to be life-changing. I was finishing my third semester of college and my second semester studying Italian. In the middle of a weekly conversation with an advanced Italian student, I was lamenting that, as a poor college student, I would never have the opportunity to use newly acquired language skills in the country I was growing to love. Instead of commiserating, the perceptive conversation partner opened my eyes to a possible solution.

"Why don't you get a job?"

At first, I was somewhat skeptical. For what kind of job could I even qualify? After talking more with the conversation partner about what he had observed while living abroad, my mind latched onto the idea of au pairing.

Having earned most extra money growing up through babysitting, the idea of being in charge of a few young children made perfect sense. In addition, as an au pair, room and board would be provided, as well as the bonus of living with a local family to learn more about Italian culture.

Less than six months later, I worked for a wonderful family in Florence. The time spent living in a city so rich in art and history also served as an ideal learning experience about the life of an au pair. It only solidified my opinion regarding the wonderful opportunity this work provides for a young person seeking their first international experience.

The Duomo Catherdral in Florence.
Enjoy all that a city or country — the Duomo cathedral in Florence, in this case — has to offer while living with a local family and immersing yourself in the culture.

However, ultimately, the success of the au pair experience lies in preparation. Before you get on the plane, follow the 7 keys discussed below.

Key #1: Pick the Right Country

Picking the right country is essential to having the right au pair experience. Research the local culture, including how common au pairs are in their society. A well-established au pair tradition will make it easier to find a good position. If you are going to a country that uses a different local language than your own, taking a language course (or two) before you go will significantly help your transition. The three semesters of college Italian (which included language and culture instruction) went a long way towards helping with immersion in my adoptive city of Florence in Italy.

Key #2: Have Realistic Expectations

While the role of a nanny in the United States (especially on the East Coast or in Los Angeles) can be highly lucrative, an international au pair is usually provided with room, board, and pocket change. The opportunity is less about making and saving money and more about immersing yourself in a different country and culture. I was comfortable in my family's home in Florence, and the money I earned allowed me to explore surrounding areas, enjoy the food, and acquire some cherished mementos.

Key #3: Stay with the Right Family

The first step is to find the right agency. Plenty of au pair agencies specialize in matching families with prospective nannies. Many of them work like a dating service, where the families and the au pair fill out profiles that are matched. Just ensure you work with an agency that charges the family for the service, not the au pair.

Things to consider when looking for your family include:

  • Time of service: Many families ask for a year commitment, but many desire either less or more. I wanted to work for 4 months (over my college summer break) and found a family who wanted the same length.

  • Location: Potential families can be found in the city and country. Make sure you pick a family that gives you access to the life you hope to have.

  • Number (and ages) of children: the number of children and their ages will significantly impact the amount of work you do. Older children will have school and activities to fill their day, while younger children will require lots of daytime attention. I had a two-and-a-half-year-old, meaning I worked most of the day except for a two-hour "nap break" every afternoon.

Key #4: Get to Know Your Family

Thanks to Skype and other video chatting technologies, spending quality time with your family virtually before you ever get on a plane is possible. This time is invaluable in helping your transition once you arrive. Not only will the family (and especially the kids) already feel more comfortable with you, but you also will be able to leave with the peace of mind that comes from knowing the living situation you are entering. My family in Italy and I exchanged emails, talked on the phone, and participated in the occasional Skype chat, significantly increasing the comfort level on both sides.

Key #5: Set Clear Expectations

Different families will have different needs. Things that you want to include while creating your au pair work contract include:

  • Hours worked per week
  • Day(s) off
  • Any vacation time
  • Household duties (such as cooking or cleaning)
  • Living space
  • Language requirements (i.e., speaking English to the children or having you take a language course)

In my case, I worked six days a week with the family, with a two-hour daily "nap break" and evenings free. While they had a housekeeper who came in daily, I was expected to clean up after my girl, help prepare lunch and dinner, and do the occasional ironing. I was also expected to speak as much English as possible with my little girl.

Key #6: Get Your Papers in Order

Your agency should help you understand what sort of work papers you need. This can include a visa (either work or student) and registration once you arrive. You also want to check into health and car insurance, especially if the family wants you to drive while there. All these needs will depend on your native citizenship, length of stay, and work hours per week. In Italy, as a non-European, I needed to have a visa before I left America and register for a permesso di soggiorno (permission to stay) at my local Questura (police department) within eight days of arrival.

Key #7: Be Prepared for a Life-Changing Experience

During my four months in Florence, I developed a deep love for Italian people and culture. It also initiated a lifetime obsession with travel. By adequately preparing for an au pair job, I didn't have to waste valuable time abroad trying to fix unexpected or easily avoidable situations. Instead, I immersed myself in a memorable and enjoyable experience starting from day one.

For more information, please see the page on the TransitionsAbroad.com site for more perspectives and a list of agencies offering au pair jobs abroad.

Janine Sobeck is a freelance writer and dramaturg. She believes in the power of travel, questions, theatre, and chocolate.

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